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Showing posts with label Past Negativity. Show all posts

Positive Thoughts And How To Get Past Negativity

By Marina Babenko


Are negative thoughts and worrying keeping you from being happy? Do you wish that you could be optimistic about your future but fear and worry about your current situation are destroying any attempt to change your life? Worry and fear can be very powerful emotions and they can overwhelm us and make it seem like we will be stuck with the life we're living forever. Depression, sadness and a desire to just give up are an everyday part of our lives. We want to be happy and we want to solve all the problems that we have but what can be done? How can you make the changes necessary when you are filled with these terrible emotions? Trying to just think positive doesn't work and these negative emotions just keep on coming back again and again.

When our life is in turmoil, often mornings are the most difficult time. You're confronted with worry and fear before you even get out of bed. It's another day filled with the same problem that you had when you went to sleep and chances are you didn't sleep very well, to begin with. You dread the day with the job that you despise or the relationship that you wish would change or the impending phone calls from bill collectors. No matter what the situation might be, it greets you as your reality seeps in and you're defeated before the day even begins.

Make a deal with yourself that you're not going to let these negative thoughts take up space in your mind for a certain amount of time each morning. When you are confronted with these bad thoughts, look in the mirror and tell yourself that you're going to put off even thinking about these things until you've had a cup of coffee or until you're fully awake. Love yourself and give yourself a break first thing in the morning. Without your mind functioning at its best, nothing good is going to come from this worry and you're only going to get a bad start to your day.

Understanding that you're thoughts aren't very positive is also a trick that you can try with yourself. Recognizing this thought pattern can take some of the power out of it and defuse the damage that it can do. Allowing worry and negative thoughts to run rampant is a waste of time and it's rare that a solution is found when your mind is focused on the problem instead of a solution. After all, it's often someone emotionally removed from the situation that can see the solution so remove yourself emotionally from the burden of worry. Clear your mind and prepare yourself for finding this solution.

Any time you can recognize that you're wasting time worrying about the problems in your life, stop. Just stop and tell yourself that worry never solved anything. While some worry can motivate us to do something about a dangerous situation, too much worry can cause us to freeze up. This is our fight or flight instinct. Be sure that you're not allowing your worry or focus on a bad situation to cause you to freeze in your tracks like a deer in a car's headlights and if this is the case tell yourself that you're going to use this instinct to propel you towards finding a solution instead. Visualize what you want to happen or your life without the problem in it. Look to the future and feel what it will be like to be free of the problem and exactly how you want your life to be.

Persistence is the key to eliminating negative thoughts and worry from your life. Not allowing negative thoughts to take up too much of your time and energy while focusing on finding a solution is possible and practical. Those negative thoughts very well might come back but if you are ruthless about recognizing them for what they are. Focus on your life without the problem and you will find that you're happier, healthier and more motivated to change your life.

Allowing yourself to dream and finding a little quite time alone in each and every day is also helpful. No matter what the situation might be, push aside the trouble and fill this time with nothing but dreams of happiness, success and love. Gather photos that bring you joy, listen to some peaceful music playing softly in the background and let yourself live in that time when everything is exactly the way that you want it to be. You deserve to be happy and you have the ability to solve any problem in your life. Your thoughts are the plans for your future and without these thoughts you will remain stuck in your present reality. Allow these methods to become a part of your daily routine. Soon you'll find that you're happier, your problems become smaller and solutions to what formerly seemed overwhelming come to you easily.


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